Marriage has been fun. We dated for 6 and a half years before we said "I do" at the altar, so you would rightfully assume that there was much to be grateful for when that day came. One part about marriage that I am thankful for, at least thankful for the way God intended it, is unity. This seems to be a lost concept across America as more and more couples end their marriage due to various reasons. Recently, I have been thinking about the idea of becoming one with my husband.
Genesis 2:24 "This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one."
God intended for marriage to be a unifying experience. I fully believe AJ and I are honoring that in every way, and it has been fun to watch all of this unfold.
For example, we became one as a family. Now, both of our families are each others families. And my sister is now related to my husband's family. Also, our things are now each others. What I possess, AJ now possesses. One thing some people have given me a hard time about it how we handle our money. AJ and I, when we got married, created a joint bank account that we both have control over. I have been told that I lost my independence when we did this. However, I am simply honoring what the Lord has written in scripture. Moreover, AJ came in with nothing. He actually came in with negative nothing. By that, I mean he came in with thousands of dollars of debt. I came in with several thousands of dollars in saving, cd's, etc. I am not bragging here. But what I am trying to say is that once we got married, I accumulated debt. No, not to my particular name, but I am now responsible for AJ's debt. Also, though AJ didn't help me save up any of my money in my savings, it is now just as much his as it is mine.
Genesis 2:24 "This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one."
God intended for marriage to be a unifying experience. I fully believe AJ and I are honoring that in every way, and it has been fun to watch all of this unfold.
For example, we became one as a family. Now, both of our families are each others families. And my sister is now related to my husband's family. Also, our things are now each others. What I possess, AJ now possesses. One thing some people have given me a hard time about it how we handle our money. AJ and I, when we got married, created a joint bank account that we both have control over. I have been told that I lost my independence when we did this. However, I am simply honoring what the Lord has written in scripture. Moreover, AJ came in with nothing. He actually came in with negative nothing. By that, I mean he came in with thousands of dollars of debt. I came in with several thousands of dollars in saving, cd's, etc. I am not bragging here. But what I am trying to say is that once we got married, I accumulated debt. No, not to my particular name, but I am now responsible for AJ's debt. Also, though AJ didn't help me save up any of my money in my savings, it is now just as much his as it is mine.
I am not bitter about this in any way. I do not regret our decisions to combine all of our possessions. We have been blessed for it. We are paying off his debt, we are building our credit as a couple, we are experiencing life as married human beings. So this is an encouragement to you. Don't listen to those people who tell you that you are no longer independent if you get married, because God created marriage in a specific way to honor Him. God will guide you in how to handle your finances and differences when that time comes for marriage.God's Will continues to always end up being the best for me, even if I don't understand it at first. Becoming one and making decisions together has grown us beyond belief, and I am wholeheartedly thankful for this precious gift of marriage.